Hello Ma'am. What is it that turns you on about a man in panties? Do you have a favorite style?

I love the contrast. There's something about a nice hard man in soft, feminine panties & stockings that really gets me going.

I also *love* having you dress up and present MY "package" as I desire... having you wear panties or cock rings or whatever I find sexy at the time, and knowing that you are doing it for my visual pleasure. It is such an obvious mark of my ownership of your manhood, and sign of my control.

I think the best cut depends on the body of the boy wearing them, but my first preference is almost always for black, lace-trimmed panties. They shouldn't be too sheer over the package itself, but should just hint at what is underneath, while surrounding it with soft lace. Black is a favorite color of mine because it is so sexy and mysterious, I also really like pink for sissies, and with some of my boys and girls, we have colors that are "our colors".

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Do you prefer having a slave do tease and denial or use them more as sub (pain, etc.) or both?

I consider myself a sensualist rather than a sadist, so I tend to go for the tease and denial.

However... I have been told that I am more of a sadist than I admit to. I will admit that I have a bit of an evil streak, and that it sometimes includes see exactly how much a boy can take. Where is that line? Hmmmm... let's see...

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when did you start playing around with your feet "sexually"? :-)

The first time I remember was with my two "sisters" when we were all kids together. We were sitting facing each other on my bed, wearing only nightshirts & panties. My legs were spread with my feet between their legs and their's between mine. I was just old enough to know that it felt good to rub there. I rubbed the older one with my toes and she liked it, so I asked her to try rubbing back. ;-)

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In taking a new sub, would you prefer to have a newbie with no experience whatsoever, or one that's been in the lifestyle for a fair amount of years with experience? Why?

Definitely an experienced one. While the idea of training a boy "your way" has a certain attraction, in reality, it's actually better to have a boy who knows that different Dommes desire things different ways and who has the basic underlying desire to serve rather perhaps just being there to explore his own fantasies and desires.

Hopefully, in that time, he has also learned some good skills, both in and out of the bedroom, and has experience in pleasing a woman.. from cooking and cleaning, to giving a good massage and finding her g-spot.

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Have you ever given a hand job using a pair of panties or pantyhose?

When it comes to hand jobs, these days I usually just tease, caress, and excite... tracing their hardness through the panties... and then have the boy do the real work.

Though I've certainly used other, more intimate parts of my body to rubs against them as well... ;-)

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Do you have any insights into why we sissies love being so girly?

Because you crave all the wonderful things that woman have, but that men are denied in our culture... from the pretty clothes with the wonderful textures, to being able to kiss and cry and express yourself if public.

Sometimes it's also a way to sublimate your male desires, and get the love and affection that you naturally need, when the woman in your life isn't willing or able to give it to you.

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What would you do if you caught me sniffing your pumps? :-)

Press your nose all the way into each shoe, making you really smell them deeply... then have you carry them across the room, in your mouth as you crawl. If you were lucky... I might let you masturbate on them... or even in them... and then lick them clean. Of course, you would still need to buy me a new pair.

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What do you find the most sexy about a man dressed in lingerie??

I have a fetish for the contrast of what we see as masculine and feminine, and there's nothing sexier than a nice hard man covered in soft, delicate lace.

I especially love opaque black panties or thong with a black lace garter belt and black lace-topped stockings -- the lace frames the "package" and shows off the buns, while the panties cling in such a way that hints at what is underneath.

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When you think of the idea of "showing off your boy" do you prefer the idea of taking him out in public collared and leashed, with other secrets hidden beneath street clothes... or having him serve totally, wearing even less, before a chosen few?

Actually, it’s usually somewhere in between. I love the idea of the hidden secrets underneath, but to me that is a different type of stimulus…something that makes me quietly smile or gets me all wet, knowing how it privately reflects my control over him.

Hmmm… though tweeting about it is showing him off, as are the yummy glimpses of our intimate conversations that we sometimes share with others on Twitter. I love retweeting jezi’s panty reports, and also commenting on the yummy feelings that I get while wearing or using various gifts and tributes from my boys and trainees. While the actions might be in private, talking about how much my boy pleases me is definitely one area in which I enjoy showing him off.

One of the key factors is interacting with people whom I know or who might comment back. I also really enjoy “controlled exhibitionism” (which might be a better description of the seen portion of your first example), but even in that, I want to be able to see and feel the response of the watcher. A lot of the pleasure that I receive is actually in knowing my/our effect on others.

When looking for a submissive, I want someone who will make me proud of him… who I can enjoy showing off. He is intelligent; interesting; confident in his skills, but not cocky/arrogant, and acts like a gentleman, ‘though he has enough of a naughty steak to indulge, and sometimes inspire, my more adventurous ideas. ;-) He is eager to help others when it is appropriate, but he doesn’t put them ahead of my needs. He can keep up his end of a conversation with my friends, who range from college dropouts to PhDs.

Here are some examples of my favorite real life ways of showing a boy off, many of which I have enjoyed with more than one boy:

Loaning him out as a demo model for an instructor (whom I trust) who is teaching something that he enjoys or is curious about.

Having him show off/teach/demo/share his experiences with specific fetishes/kinks, such as having him show off his chastity device and how it goes on and off for friends at a party, and discussing with them his experiences in wearing it.

Having him serve me at a party or event, or even model in a fetish fashion show, in clothes that I have picked out for him.

Loaning him out to help with setup or taking down for an event.

Leading a boy around an event, asking others to play with the bells on his nipples, or chastity, or having them each take a turn while I am giving him a spanking. Basically, asking/allowing them to take part in teasing or playing with him, and comment on it while I enjoy both their reactions and his.


Some more specific memories:

Having him serve at a party that I am hosting – greeting guests, putting away coats, helping with the food table, getting drinks, etc. Wearing his chastity key on a necklace, clearly visible near my heart, “knowing” friends notice and congratulate me on the new boy. One of them, noticing that his collar does not have a lock, asks what the key is for, and I indicate that it fits something a bit lower. ;-) (Mmm…taking more private pleasure in the memories of him pleasuring me beforehand, and then cleaning and setting things up while I showered, dressed and answered last minute calls and emails.)

Sending him ahead to SRO classes at a national BDSM event while I network in the hall. Coming in, saying “thank you, but no” to the guys who are offer me seats, and even the one who offered me a place on his lap, carefully moving past the folks sitting in the aisle, giving him a small, un-needed gesture as I get to him, and taking his seat as he drops down to sit on the floor at my feet.

Wowing the International Leathermen at Folsom Street Faire, calling others to come look and one guy even dropping to his knees at the size of my boy’s cock.

While vending at another kink event, the organizers decided to keep the vendor room open later, through dinner, to allow for more shopping time. He takes the initiative to take pizza orders from the various vendors, places the order, collects the cash, greets the delivery boy at the door and distributes the slices, also getting drinks for those who need them.

Going in to setup for that event, he carried several boxes that I can only carry one-at-a-time, stacked very high, through the vendor room. My private pleasure was in turning around and seeing all the boxes there. The pleasure in showing him off was in the approval of others, especially when a girl that was there by herself, representing one of the lingerie vendors, asked if she could borrow him. I was quite happy to oblige.

Events like that really stand out in my mind, and bring a smile to my face years (even over a decade!) later, but they aren’t necessarily the ones that you can script ahead of time. The right kind of boy does them because that is who he is, and then I find myself both wonderfully surprised and very happy to show him off.

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From what I've read, you seem to favor intimate, sensual, personal service from your submissives. Do you also enjoy making them scream, beg, ache and cry? Do you like to humiliate and torment them?

My dear boy, you know that it is my greatest delight to make them ache and need until it fills them so that they can think of nothing else. I love watching/hearing their reactions... and knowing that I have created it in them. Begging to touch,,, begging to please... begging to cum... and making them wait and beg more, until I am satisfied. Screams of pleasure and intensity... tears of cathartic release. Sensuous torment reflecting my power and control over them, and feeding with own warm wetness and deep pleasure. ;-)

I used to believe that I did not like humiliation, because I would never wish to do anything to psychically scar a sub, but making him face his fears, and having him show how far he will go for me is quite another matter. If role playing as a dog, or going panty shopping for me is humiliation, then I *love* humiliating my boys. If dressing him in a certain fashion for my delight or having him serve me at a party is humiliation, then I deeply desire and enjoy it. If owning and using him when and how I wish is humiliation, then yes, he is MINE!

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